I came across this article titled, 5 Moms Share the Exact Moment They Felt Like a Real Mom. I found it sweet how these mothers shared their experiences of when it clicked for them that they were in fact mothers. Some moms felt like a “real mom” during pregnancy, others not until weeks after their child was born.
Reading this article, I could recall the exact moment I felt like a real mom, so I decided I would share with you all. My first pregnancy felt like a rollercoaster ride to be honest; many ups and downs. I was younger, finishing up college, and unsure of a lot of things, just beginning to figure out who I was. I felt like I was going through the motions, but the fact that my whole life was about to change hadn’t hit me.
My first son was induced (and he was the only one of my children to have a “normal” birth story; I’ll share my other birth stories at some point!). I remember making sure we had all our necessities and things we wanted for our hospital stay, and making that trip to the hospital, and it still did not feel real. Later, I can recall being checked into our room, receiving Pitocin, contractions beginning, being extremely uncomfortable, trying many different positions to find comfort, being so hungry & thirsty, probably driving my man crazy (lol), receiving my epidural, throwing up, my water breaking, being told to start pushing, and it still did not feel real.
The moment I felt like a real mom wasn’t until I pushed Isaiah out, and for a second it was quiet, and for that second my heart froze. For that split second, I could not breathe; I could not breathe until I heard Isaiah’s sweet little cry. One (of three) of the best sounds I’ve ever heard in my life. All of a sudden every thing felt so real, and in that moment, I knew I would give my life a million times over for that little baby boy. That is the exact moment I felt like a real mom.
Three boys later and there’s no denying I’m a real mom now, lol. I’ve got the mom look, the lame mom jokes, the mom pants (just for the event I actually have to get dressed because you moms know all we have time to rock is our leggings and mom shirts!), the mom bun, all of it! HAH! But on a serious note, that same feeling I had after Isaiah was born has only intensified times three, there is nothing I wouldn’t do for those little boys. All I want for them is to be safe and happy.
Now a days, I get that “ok, I’m a real mom feeling” again and again every time I empty my online shopping cart because I can think of something I can do for my sons with that money, the nights I don’t sleep because I am worrying about one of my sick children and nursing them back to health, going to more kid’s parties and events than adult ones, whenever I repeat myself for the millionth time to “put your shoes on” or “clean your room”, or find myself counting down from three and thinking “gosh, I sound just like my mom!”, and ohhhh, whenever I end up sharing my meal and give them that last bite of whatever it was that I really preferred eating myself, lol!
Anyway, I want to hear your experiences! Ladies, in what moment did you feel like a real mom!? And for the men readers, when did you feel like a real dad!?
There are days that I work while the kids are in school and then we are running around from one thing to another and don’t get home until 8 or 9pm. I call these the “neverending days” that just stretch for so long.. those are my “real mom” days as we shuttle from one place to another in the minivan 🙂
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omgosh, yesss! I know the feeling!
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With my first son, I felt like I was babysitting someone’s child for a few months after he was born lol. It finally sunk in one day and I was like, wow I’m a mom. lol Now I have two sons and a bonus son and I really feel like a mom. lol
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LOL, I love it! I STILL get those moments every now and then when I’m doing things I never imagined myself doing & I’m like WOW, I’m somebody’s mother. hahaa
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I seriously teared up reading about your experience with Zay! I think I realized I was a real mom when they sent us home and I was like “umm, WHAT?! We have to actually take care of him alone?!” Hahaha
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I remembered feeling this way. When I gave birth of our daughter everything has changed. I never knew I can feel in love so quick. I love being a mom.
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I felt that real mom when I gave birth to my second, why not my first well because I didn’t know what a real mom should feel like! Sounds silly but its true. Thank you for sharing your story!
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Oh, so interesting! but makes total sense! my first child was so easy going when I had my second I felt like I had to learn how to be a mom all over again1, haha!
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It’s so funny that we don’t feel like real moms right away. I was the same way!
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Although I am not a mom (yet — never say never haha), I’ve always been curious what the experience is like. This is a very well-written post that vividly captures that experience! I like how you point out too that it’s not all sunshine and roses, but it’s both the beautiful and the frustrating experiences that make being a mother such an enriching experience.
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Loved reading this, Kesi!! So beautiful & interesting to know that people get that “mom moment” at different stages. You sound like such an awesome mom. 🙂 Looking forward to reading your other birth stories when you share them!
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What a beautiful story! I remember when I felt like a real mom the first time too. There is nothing more precious than those first little cries!
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Mine was c section but i felt the real mom when i first breastfeed my baby. Great post
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It honestly took a few weeks for me. I loved my son when he was first born, but a few weeks in I realized, “OMG I LOVE this little person.” And I realized it was a different love, a bigger love, and an unconditional love that I’d never experienced before.
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I definitely felt like a mom after the delivery too!
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When I brought her home from the hospital and didn’t want to fall asleep for fear of not hearing her cry. First real mom moment lol!
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Oh, yes I remember those nights.. and constantly checking for breathing when they napped or slept. ❤
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I remember feeling the same way when my 2 children were born. That first cry changed it all!
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Such a beautiful sound.. but just that first cry not so much the cries afterwards. LOL!
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amazing! It took me a bit longer 2 or 3 days probably after my son was born, but I totally relate to the idea of it coming back again and again over the years afterwards!
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hm , I am not sure when I felt like I became a mother ! It was all a blur, really !
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Such a beautiful post. The moment I felt like a real mom was the moment my first son was put on my chest. I couldn’t even hold him because I was strapped down. I had two c sections so he was put in my chest and our faces touched. Never new how much you can love a person until I had my kids. The love is just so different. Mama bear comes out. 😍
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So true! Words cannot even explain. ❤
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It’s an incredible feeling when you fall in love with your baby for the first time. I cant imagine my life without him now. What was I even living for before he arrive?!
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This is awesome. I share my birth story with my girls quite often, but I think I need to tell them when I really felt like a mother. It was during pregnancy. But I feel you with the delivery. I’ve been in hundreds of deliveries and until the baby cries, the world basically stops. Great post.
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